Roles

What role(s) do you play? What role is most important? How do you play your role(s)? Do you know when your role is needed most? Have you forgotten about certain roles?


I ask these questions because sometimes I don’t think people realize what it is to be a role model for many different situations, many different causes and for many different people. I hope this stirs in you to start focusing more on the answers. Most people can be quick to say I’m an employee or business owner, a wife or husband, and mother or father. But do you realize that those are all basic roles those most people have regardless? Do you realize that you are so much more than that? Do you realize that people look up to you or reach out to you outside of those roles? Before you start thinking more on what roles you play, let me tell you what roles I play. I am a wife, a mother, a child of god, an employee, a taxpayer, a daughter, a sister, an Aunt, a niece, a cousin, a best friend, a friend, an associate, a responsible citizen, a beautiful woman, a role model, an enemy to some. I think there are many other minor roles, but I think I’ve gotten my point across. Many don’t realize that you’ve got to extend beyond your normal box and make sure you realize your roles in the other areas. Outside of making sure you’re not neglecting your other roles, many may think well yeah I know that I this and I’m that, but the question is are you fulfilling those roles? If you say you’re a sister are you really doing your sisterly duties? Are you calling him or her up and reminding them you love them? You say you’re a Aunt, but are your really making sure you’re setting an example for your nieces or nephews? Or are they just another one of those kids that your sister had? You say you’re a wife, but are you always complaining about doing this and doing that and you don’t have time or this or time for that? Some say they are best friends or friends, but are you showing your friends how much you appreciate them regardless of what you expect from them? Are you expectations set to high? Do you want something from a friend that you’re not willing to give? Take a deep look into your roles and start to realize just how important you are to yourself, your family, and many others that are an active part of your life. Start fulfilling those roles to the fullest, don’t just give a little piece, give what you would expect to receive in that role. I hope that I have motivated you to answers these questions and get moving on taking responsibilities for your roles. Live your dream, do what it takes to get there!

"Lord, give us enough hurts to keep us humane, enough failures to keep our hands clenched tightly in Yours, and enough of success to make them sure we walk with You throughout all of our life."

This is a snippet what I pray today. This is found in many prayers from weddings, to christenings’, to blessings of our homes and churches, for prayer over our family and friends and many more. I have embarked on a journey these last couple months and my journey is not done, I have many roads to cross, may obstacles to overcome and may roads blocks to back me up. But with that there are many goals I’ll accomplish, joyful moments, everlasting memories, hearts I’ll touch, tears of joy, and inspiration to receive and provide. I pray that God gives me the strength and understanding to make this journey complete and to do as he would want me to do. I realize that he has not brought me, neither you this far to leave us. Each and every situation and circumstance is for the glory of him. He will never give us more than we can bear. As said in my prayer, he needs to prepare us for his blessing and if that means we have to encounter hurts, failures, and successes to keep us in his plan to walk with Him throughout all of our life then so be it. I know that through all things, he is with me each and every step of the way.

Random.......

I've heard this song a few times on the radio and thought WOW! this is one of the sweetest forgive me/love songs I've heard in a while. It just goes to show that its possible to reconnect or love again within the same relationship. Listen.....

Patience IS a virtue

Definition of PATIENT


1: bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint
2: manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain
3: not hasty or impetuous
4: steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity
5a : able or willing to bear —used with of
5b : susceptible, admitting
 
I was told this past weekend how much patience I had (and I'm referring to with my children). Thank you God for one wonderful friend who was very observant of my doings over a span of hours. Before I go on, lets just say that with so much to do and so much going on in my life, people have seen the real me( which is exactly what you've seen in the past). I don't have time to to be extra anything (what you've seen is what you get). So what I'm getting at is how I act in front you people is how I act not in front of people.
 
Consistently recently I have asked for patience; patience on my job, patience with my friends and enemies, patience with family, patience with time, patience with obstacles and most importantly patience to deal with my children(the most impatient beings on earth(in my opinion)). So in my consist request, I thought I struggled more than average with this area of my life, but come to find out I am one of the best with having patience. So a friend of mine said to me WOW!, you have so much patience, with the many children your dealing with and the many situations, you can actually still speak in a tone that's comforting, your graceful, not appearing angry, its surreal what I've seen this evening. You have a lot of patience, its like you close out the noise from the screaming baby, from the mess of the evening and focus on whats important and necessary and its real. So I said to her, are you serious? you think I'm patient? She said yes, If I were you or any average person, there's no way it would be possible to deal with the situations of the evening and still carry on like a normal human being, its virtually impossible!
 
As I look further into the situation, I'm able to see that I am a calm, cool, and collective person and realize that I'm able to operate without constant complaint, I'm still manifesting regardless of obstacles and strain. I am not impulsive and violent. I can bear the situations that come my way despite adversity. Here a I am, one of the many patient moms and wives out there in this world who hadn't even realized that I finally got what I was asking for!
 
To close, some how some way before I had a chance to notice, my prayers were answered. God kind of just slide this blessing into my life for the sake of my children and My Dear I'm sure. So If you find an area of you life where you are lacking, don't give up on improving. Continue to request the change or improvement your searching for and reevaluate after time, you may already be experiencing the blessings you've asked for. Remember to take notice of how you are currently functioning and take credit for a job well done.

I haven't been able to write, but can I share a video with you?

Closer..........

I Just Found My Niche

I just did it, I finally came to the realization that I found my niche! I love to plan, absolutely, positively, can't get enough of it planning! After spending about 6 months (maybe more) on the planning of a book club/social club and finally kicking it off this past July, i realized something was missing. I was yearning for the next step, not the next step of the book club such as what were reading, but more like how can I plan for the next step of our vision for the book club- who, what, where, when, why and how can we make it to the next big thing? I'm creative, I like to set boundaries, I like to put things into perspective, I like to set real goals and work my way through them, I like to be prepared, I want things to be perfect. WOW! How can this help me? What can this do for my life? How can this alter or prepare me for my future goals in life? I'm really not sure how to answers those questions, but I do know that I am at the first point and I will continue to work my way up until I accomplish what God has set forth for me to do in life. I'm excited of where I am, its not that I have a perfect life, a perfect career, a perfect family, or I'm a perfect person, but just that I'm excited that I have something to look forward to in my future endeavors. I know there will be obstacles, barriers, and just plain roadblocks that the devil is excited about putting in place, but I am growing, learning, and advancing in so many areas of my life and I can't wait to see how things turn out!